What does it truly mean to be a good judge of character? It’s something I often reflect on, especially when I think about my past friendships. I want to believe that I have this skill, but the truth is, I’ve made my share of mistakes. Let’s be real for a moment—it’s a complicated journey. I often tell my children, “You are who your friends are. If you want to show me your life, show me your friends.” Those words carry weight, yet none of us are perfect, right?
Today, I feel like I’ve learned the importance of being discerning about who I let into my life, and especially who I allow into my children’s lives. The world we live in is fraught with challenges, and many people are just trying to get by while carrying their own wounds. However, I do not need others projecting their pain onto me, especially when I did not cause it. I also want to protect my children from those who may hurt them by entering our lives. It is indeed a rocky road to navigate.
I’ve adopted a simple approach: I keep to myself and surround myself with those who genuinely uplift and inspire me. My circle is small, but it feels safe and nurturing. Just because someone is friendly with me at work or at events, it doesn’t mean they will be part of my children’s lives. I reserve that space for real bonds and friendships built on trust. Life is too precious to waste on superficial connections, and I want my children to understand the value of true friendship. In this complex world, I strive to lead by example, showing them that while we should be mindful of the company we keep, we should also embrace understanding and empathy for those who may be struggling.
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